Rejection is an incredibly powerful force and the effects it has on us emotionally, mentally, and relationally is no laughing matter. At some point in all of our lives, we have all been rejected in a relationship – whether it be romantic or platonic; professionally; by a family member; and even self-rejection.
Read MoreWhat I see are walking volcanoes everywhere I go. Do you know what a walking volcano is? It’s bubbling under the surface and at any moment, it's going to explode! Why? Because we internalize everything. We don't talk to anybody. We just keep it down because we use excuses like this: ‘Well, people are busy.
Read MoreLife will give you a lot of suffering but why choose to amplify that suffering by the story that you are telling yourself? What you’re going through is hard enough, what you’re dealing with is heavy enough without telling yourself a story that things will never get better and all hope is lost.
Read MoreI believe there are two types of tired: one is a need for sleep and the other is a need for peace.
Read More“Before we take a stand, sometimes we need to take a seat. When we take the time to sit down and listen to someone who is different from us, not only are we able to expand and challenge our perspectives but position ourselves to empathize with their experience. We can build bridges when we choose to understand.”
Read Moref people won't let you grow, flourish, or soar then they are not part of your future no matter how much they were a part of your past. Don’t confuse the length of the friendship for the strength of the friendship.
Read MoreWe can very often fool others with clever quotes, inspirational sayings or even combative rhetoric but who is the person behind the screen? What do you really believe? What lies beneath the surface of the carefully crafted photoshoot, the well-placed lighting, and the combination of filters?
Read MoreControl what you can – your words, your thoughts, your emotions, your responses, and your actions. Control your response to what you can’t – which is pretty much everything else.
Read MoreWe are ALL being asked to make sacrifices. We are ALL adjusting to new norms. We are ALL having to go about our days in new and unusual ways. We are ALL unsure about what will happen next.
Read MoreYou know how much trouble there is when you take to heart what you heard without checking it out? Beware of secondhand stories. Beware of what you believe that you have not seen for yourself.
Read MoreWe can become so task driven, so goal oriented, and motivated by a “win at all costs” perspective that we may get there but how many friendships and relationships suffered because of it? How many people did we just blaze by because we couldn’t be bothered to slow down to make a real connection?
Read MoreRefusing to adjust and make changes is not determination; it is stubbornness. Are there things in your life that will continue to hurt you if you or keep you bound if don’t let them go? Are you really willing to hold on to your history at the expense of your destiny?
Read MoreIn admitting that you don’t feel strong, you show true strength. In being openly vulnerable, you show true courage.
Read MoreTime is a factor in the healing process, to be sure. We have to be involved in the healing process. This means that you cannot trust a clock or the changing of a calendar to do for us what we have to be actively involved in.
Read MoreThere’s a lot to be said for the power of consistency. When you opt for consistency over excitement, you are developing the kind of practices that will carry you through the seasons of dryness all of us will encounter.
Read MoreGrace accounts for the years we wasted, the time we lost, and even the opportunities we didn't know how to seize. Our lives are still on schedule. Bad decisions are not without consequence, but in the frame of grace, they are never beyond redemption.
Read MoreWhy is asking for help so hard? Why do we suffer in isolation? And not just isolated physically but we remain shut off and shut down mentally and emotionally?
Read MoreThe weather is meant to be checked, not watched. Why? When we sit around and watch it all day, it will scare us. It’s good to make a plan and make provision but to watch it will breed fear, not faith.
Read MoreConsider an airport. It cannot choose to only accept arrivals and not departures; there are valid times for travel in both directions. We cannot force people to stay any longer than we can force time to stand still. We cannot manipulate, coerce, charm or trap gifts to last forever.
Read MoreIt is not impossible to change course but patterns are hard to break. It is, however, important to remember that we are to be the captains of our ships. It is our responsibility to keep our hand on the wheel and turn it to change the angle to alter the direction of our lives when we realize we are headed towards an “iceberg.”
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